Wednesday night, this is how it all began. I was kept up by Matilda all night. She has a bad habit of waking up and if she isn’t touching me whines until she finds me then wants to nurse back to sleep. This gets so exhausting when it happens 4-5 times a night. Wednesday it was constant and I woke up Thursday completely exhausted and knew something had to change. I have said it before, “Oh, I really need to get Matilda in her crib and sleeping through the night”, but I always came up with some sort of excuse that it won’t work out or this isn’t the right week to try it because we will be traveling and her routine will be disrupted after all the hard work has been put in.
Thursday reminded me that I should have done this a long time ago, I was zombie tired! After I had Henry, a friend of mine recommended a book called Baby Wise. I took her advice and read it and it was a game changer for me. I followed the steps with Henry and it worked. Fast forward and here I am with Matilda, still, 15 months old snuggled up right in between mommy and daddy. Seriously, 15 months old!? Never say never, because I am pretty certain I uttered the words “I’ll never have a child sleep in our bed someday!” Wow, having a child can humble you! Henry ended up in our bed for a little bit and now I had Matilda taking up residency too. Enough was a enough, which led me to where I am now.
Friday night the sleep training commenced. I had anxiety about it, I was dreading what she might think…am I abandoning her? Where is my mommy? Why am I all alone in this room? My mind went to all the dark places. Ok, so Friday night didn’t go exactly how I had intended it to go because she fell asleep on me before I could do the routine I had wanted to do. I took her up to her room, laid her in her crib and that is when all hell broke loose. She was screaming so loud I am sure the neighbors heard (but guess what, I didn’t care at all, because little side note our neighbors teenage boys like to through ragers when their parents are gone on retreats so a little bit of me was like cry baby cry!). Anyway, in the book Baby Wise it tells you that you should go in and reassure your child that they are ok after five minutes of crying. After the five minutes was up I went in told her she was ok. You should keep it brief and try to avoid touching them, this just adds to them wanting you more if you linger or give them cuddles. IT IS SO HARD!! TRUST ME!! I almost caved because she was reaching for me desperately saying MAMA! MAMA! But, I stayed strong and walked out the door because if we could get past it I would have a great reward of this thing called sleep that I was lacking so much of.
Second phase has started we are now where the book says to let her cry for ten minutes and after the ten minutes is up to go check on her tell her she is ok and so on. The full ten minutes hadn’t even finished and I could hear her starting to give up. I was looking at the monitor and she was starting to lay down and get comfortable. I didn’t even have to go back in and reassure her that she was ok. She was out! I was in total disbelief! If I knew it would have been this painless I would have done this months ago. That ten minutes was tough though, the longest ten minutes of my life, but so worth it! She slept all night, this has never happened before! She woke up at 8 am Saturday morning as a well rested happy baby. And I would say I slept the whole night too, but in reality I didn’t because I woke up worried about her wondering why I hadn’t heard from her yet. However, I was more rested than I have been in a long time!
Night two, this night went even better and I was able to do the routine I wanted to do Friday night. I started off with her bath as usual then diffused some essential oils in her room (peace&calm) I figured we’d need it if she decided to throw a devil fit again. I spent some time rocking her and reading her a few stories, let her nurse and get sleepy. I then told her it was time for bed. I turned on her fan gave her some last snuggles and kisses and laid her down. She did get a little fussy, but as soon as I walked out her door it stopped. I kept an eye on the monitor to see how long it took her to fall asleep and she was out in 5 minutes. We successfully made it through night two! I am so proud of how well she is doing and I am proud of myself for not giving in and staying strong. I am proof it can be done.
For anyone that is about to head down this road I recommend following the method Baby Wise suggests. You can find it on Amazon for a eleven dollars and it is so worth it! I now have had a great weekends sleep and feel like my dark circles that I thought were going to be forever there are dissipating. Life is good over here at the Simonson House, we have a rested mommy and a happy baby!
P.S. I am happy to report tonight went without hitch and she laid down without even crying or making a sound.
Flower decals on Matilda’s wall can be found here.
Her cute bunny jammies can be found here.